This is one of the best complements I’ve ever received in my life. I know that most of you, especially the self-proclaimed activists will look at me like I just swallowed a bucket of crack cocaine. And I’m aware that some of you may think that this is a more snide and coert form of racism. I disagree and here’s why.
I’m used to peole commenting about my looks and it happened recently with a group of my friends. One of them asked the group if they thought I was good-looking, because she thought I was very pretty (insert hairflip). One of the people responded, “I think you’re really good looking for a black person.” And I wa happy to accept that as a complement, because it’s a sign of progress.
Racism and racial prejudice do exist. But here’s a tidbit about taste: it’s neither innate nor instantaneous; it’s developed. Let’s use the example of a child eating caviar at 6 years old. They’ll probably hate it, because what child likes the taste of forecefully extracted fish embryos? Then at 24, the child goes to a restaurant and unknowingly orders something with caviar. At that point, he tolerates it. It’s not something he’d order, but he’s not practising his bulemia because of it. After more exposure, he starts to like it and orders more and more until he LOVES it. Race is the same.
People with racist backgrounds are starting to interact with people of other ethnicities and are developing a taste for them, which leads to comments like this. What we need to understand as a society is that the general human can only tolerate change in small doses. And we’re not helping the process along by spitting in people’s faces when they say, “You’re good looking for a _____ person.” We’re not helping by making cancerous Buzzfeed videos about the subject; we’re causing regression.
SO next time comments like this pop up, let’s celebrate them and show our gratitude for them and how far we’ve come from what used to be, even though we’re not yet where we want to be; let’s embrace this single step towards global racial tolerance. I hate the saying, but Rome wasn’t built in a day.